Written By – Thaera Roy
Problems. Everyone has problems. What differentiates our problems is the severity of them and how we deal with them. At times, you may feel frustrated and as if you’re the only one who has to go through hard times, but in actual fact, you’re not. Somewhere in the world, there is at least one person who is facing challenges like you. Although at times it may be hard to believe, you are never alone.
Everyone has their own story to tell. The person who has the widest smile could also be the one struggling the most to hold on.
We’re always advised to share our miseries with others and not keep them to ourselves. “It makes you feel better,” they say.
Some of us may be lucky enough to find it easy to talk about our feelings, but what about the rest of us? We could know all the benefits of opening-up, yet it could be one of the most difficult things for us to do. You could be sitting in front of the person you trust the most but unable to find the words to express how you feel. Why?
We hold on to the feelings we have as if they bring us all the benefits in the world. Personally, I don’t think they do. Yes, it may be a reminder to yourself to not repeat your past mistakes, but what good is it doing to you by holding on to all the pain, sadness, hurt, guilt and all the other negative feelings you have? Maybe we’re scared of being misunderstood, or that the ones closest to us would not want to stand by us anymore, but is that worse than holding on to whatever we have?
Some people just completely break down when they’re asked to share what’s wrong. They don’t know where to start. They don’t know what to say or how to say it without making themselves seem “crazy”.
It’s sad that we live in a world filled with cruelty. While there are many understanding people, not everyone is that way. Things blow out of proportion so quickly. People can find a way to make something so minor become the talk of the town within a few moments. You’ve probably wondered how something so small became such a huge, uncontrollable matter.
So many questions and scenarios come to mind but are they all worth more than opening-up? If keeping everything to yourself only makes you feel worse, what good is it doing to you? Why do we hold on to all of this as if we desperately need it to live? Why can’t we just surrender our problems to the universe to help ourselves heal?